This brought something that happened to me about three years ago back to mind. My brother a baptized witness and pioneer asked me if I was going to go back to the meetings.
Without even thinking I said "I doubt it very much". Pretty much end of conversation. Actually, I haven't spoken with him since. His wife made it clear that he refuses to talk to me since I da'ed myself. Oh well his loss.
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Do You Think That You Might Turn Back To Jehovah?
by Englishman ini`ve never yet been snubbed by a jw.
the reason is that i refuse point blank to speak to them unless they speak to me first.
so, if i`m visiting my jw mum and jw visitors arrive which they often do i just smile, raise one eyebrow slightly, and look `em straight in the eye!.
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depression and why JW's don't reconize it
by nogs inwell as you know unless you are an elders son or daughter generally jw's don't lift a finger to help all those ones feeling downtrodden and lonely.
i felt like this from july 1994 to march 2000. i prayed to jehovah constantly for help to ease the loneliness, i begged the elders and even others.
for a long time the only ones who would talk to me where the elderly ones(who i miss now since i left) i cried every night and felt after five years of being at meetings and feeling invisable (even though i was an auxillary pioneer) i decided that my life was worth fighting for.
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Naomi,
First of all let me apologize, for not getting to this thread sooner. Your description of being in the Org. seem to fit so much of what I went through and many others here as well.
I too went through great depression. I was in the same congregation for seventeen years. I went from a thin, vivacious, open person, to a overweight, depressed, almost reclusive person within those seventeen years. No one ever bothered to ask what the problem was. I had very few friends, actually no real one's for years. The problem was an abusive husband, who is still in good standing with the Org, btw. And the elder's taking turns on me. It was a very rough time for me.
In June of 2000, I da'ed myself. Like Simon said, it was like a huge weight being lifted off of me.
I also went to counseling. (which of course drew more fire from the elder's) But it was the best thing I could have done. The abuser finally left me. And I am now married and extremely happy with my wonderful husband. He helped me to see many of the other problems with the org. and I am happier now than I have ever been in my entire life. (I was raised in the org.) The only sad point in my life right now is how my family treats me. But I figure it is their loss. They refuse to even meet my wonderful husband. So they are missing out on seeing their daughter truly happy and contented now.
There is so much more. But sufice it to say, I have been through many of the things you described. Good luck with the new man in your life and your newly chosen path of happiness!
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Anyone out there?
by Clark66 inmy name is clark.
i have been disfellowshiped since december 31, 1991. i attended the redwood city north congregation and was disfellowshipped along with an elder on the same night...you do the "mathwork.".
i am new to this sight (about 1/2 hour) and am not familiar with the format of the do's and don'ts ... or even if i should be here.... however, i have a question for anyone...(and i'm ready for the answers whether it be from over enthusiastic jw's or people who understand...or from anyone in between).. i was disfellowshipped because i openly admitted before 3 elders that i am gay and lived this life as a gay man despite being previously a regular pioneer and a ministerial servant.
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Welcome to the board Clark. I hope you followed Larc's advice and looked at the sick thread. You will find many here, although not gay, do try to understand!
Shalom,
Hope to hear more from you! Welcome to you too!
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Well............this is me
by digderidoo inwell, i'd just like to say hello to you all and introduce myself.
i've spoken to a few of you on chat and i must say this site is well worth logging on to.
it's nice to be able to speak to people who share a common experience to myself, although at times i've found since i've been here through the last week, it has started me thinking again of my experiences in the truth...is this good or bad?.
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Welcome Paul! Always nice to see new one's here.
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Hello to all
by Mr Angry inhello to all.. i have been a lurker here for about 2 weeks and been so impressed at the friendship shown and the honest debate i thought i would join in.. my name is rick and my jw story is at http://www.jwfiles.com/jws-leaving/rick.htm if your interested.
it also saves a lot of unecessary typing here.. i use the user name of mr angry so as not to be confused with the rick that was on h20.
to confuse the matter further rick is not my real name as i have family still in the truth (how i hate that term) and i dont wish my real identity to be revealed at this stage.
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Welcome to the board Rick. I'll try to get over to read your story. It always amazes me, all of our similiar feelings!
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Hello
by rob injust wanted to say "hello" to all forum members.
i was a baptized jw for 23 years and was da'd about 18 months ago.
oh, the feeling of freedom.
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WELCOME ROB,
You will be ok here!!!!! This is a great place. Really looking forward to seeing your posts.
Thank you for the plug Logical.
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This is what the Society does to people
by rem ini found the terse, typed letter displayed above sitting on my microwave oven when i got home from work a few months ago.
it was addressed to me from my best friend and brother-in-law of many years.. a couple of days before we got into a discussion over "what was wrong with me.
" i had recently grown a goatee that he thought was extremely 'unchristian'.
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Welcome Rem and any others I have missed . This is unfortunately so typical of the Witness mindset.
I have experienced this with my best friend, whom I had the dubious honor of studying with.
I cannot understand how you can turn love for someone on and off like a water faucet. It is conditional apparently. How sad for them, that they can't understand the concept of unconditional love.
It doesn't make it any easier for those of us who have experienced it from the other side though does it?
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Hi, I'm new around here...
by Gianluca ini have been lurking aroung here for quite some time and in enjoy this forum!!.
maybe i might contribute a few post in the near future.. best regards.
gianluca
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Welcome Gianluca,
Looking forward to learning more about you!
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Mother's letter
by silentlambs inmy wife recieved this letter from her mother thursday.
i thought i might share it at her request to see your opinions as to how she might respond.
i offer a slightly edited version of her letter, any suggestions?.
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Silent Lambs,
I just want to thank you and your wife for taking the stand you are despite all the reprocussions. I think it is wonderful when someone stands up for what they think is right.
I am so sorry that the mother-in-law has put this undue pressure on you. I have been through something similiar with my family. It is very stressful and hurtful, even when we understand the mind-set.
Wasasister,
What an excellent reply you posted. So kind but yet succinct. I wish you had been around when I wrote my letters! BTW, welcome to the board.
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Hi Prisca. I am Norm, and I am new here
by Norm inhi, prisca,.
i am norm, and i am new here.. .
this post is primarily for those folk on this board, who post .
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My apologies Norm, just went to the other thread and I think there must be two Norms. No wonder I was confused.
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